Ask

There is a notion that says we have to do it alone, that pride and a strong sense of identity means we are sufficient to our needs, and if we are complete, whole, and truly successful, then we will have abundance to share with those less fortunate. The truth of the matter is that we are all “less fortunate.” There is no one of us that has it all, is complete, or whole enough to not need or benefit from the help of others.

Now, that said, the first thing that comes to mind is how important this statement is for “other people.” After all, it is not an observation that applies to me—is it?

Here is the rub. When it comes to understanding how to successful in the world, when we put our shingle out—put our selves out—into the world, we are asking for something. We are asking the world to come and try our wares, pay us a bit, and to give us the honor of using our services--what ever they may be. There is no businessperson, entertainer, politician, or professional that does not rely on the magnanimity of those in his or her circle.

So, when Keith Farrazzi councils us to “ask,” he is absolutely correct. Whether it is a relationship or a business deal, ask and you “shall receive.” Receiving a yes or no is an answer, a gift, a clear response from the world that has within it the immediate benefit of clarity and the opportunity to make the next step, whatever it is. After all, as the poet William Stafford so eloquently says, “make your yes’s, no’s, and maybe’s clear, the darkness around us is deep” (A Ritual to Read to Each Other).

So ask.